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Eight profiles of online harassers and how to identify if you’re one of them

2 April 2021

Online harassment is a freedom of expression crisis that needs to be understood and taken very seriously. Online harassment isn’t just threats of violence and defamation, it can also be very subtle and continuous. Constant, low-level aggression from strangers can wear someone down more than many realise.

Over the past year, I’ve been looking into how to deal with online harassment. I’ve studied reports, of which there are very few, and I’ve reached out to journalists and fellow bloggers, and the responses are often the same:

It comes with the territory. You just have to grow a thicker skin.

Online harassment is not something that is widely talked about, but it has become part of most people’s day-to-day lives. I believe it’s a subject that should to be covered in schools, at universities, in workshops and by social media platforms such as my own. Those who have experienced online harassment, such as myself, should be encouraged to speak out and help people understand how to identify it and how to deal with it.

Eight profiles of online harassers

I’d like to begin by breaking down below what I deal with on a daily basis in eight concise profile descriptions. If any of them sound familiar to you, please consider the impact you’re having on the people you’re writing to.

The Discrediter

Stays quiet and never comments on anything until there’s a small or potential error that they feel they need to address publicly, more often than not in a patronising way. What I find is that the Discrediter is often wrong. They are never there to be positive and give credit where it’s due, but always there, lurking, ready and poised to be the first to criticise.

The Over-Educator

Someone who politely explains why they believe the post or article is wrong in as many words as the post or article itself. Reading a 500-1000-word comment is extremely time-consuming, especially when the commenter is inaccurate.

The Defender

The Defender is someone who returns to what they were told many years ago and explain it as gospel without any research. It’s hard hearing that something you value has a darker context that you realised, but it’s okay to read something and let it change your mind.

The Whatabouter

The Whatabouter responds to an accusation or difficult question by making a counter-accusation or raising a different issue. They aim to distract from the issue at hand by commenting on how other countries, populations, governments and leaders have done bad things too, while simultaneously refusing to acknowledge the issue presented.

The Fake Newser

Quoting false statistics and factually incorrect versions of historical events and fake news is common. Most of the time, it’s a result of the commenter being misinformed, but it’s possible that this can be done deliberately too, which is gaslighting.

The Troll

The foul-mouthed messages, the subtle threats, the racism, misogyny, hate. Their words are unfounded but personal, designed to undermine and attack. They’re the nastiest of all, but also the easiest to ignore.

The Bully

Likes comments from harassers, jeers them on, befriend each other over a common enemy and gangs up against the author.

The Anti-Fan/Unfollower

The Anti-Fan will agree with and enjoy everything they read on the blog so far, but then there will be one post that they disagree with or dislike and this can throw their whole version of what they believed the blog to be into the air. To the Anti-Fan, this process may manifest into a feeling of betrayal, and the reaction can be extreme enough for them to shift to one or all of the above profiles, especially in their “Unfollowing” moment.

Final points to consider

  • Putting oneself out there is brave. It’s brave to reveal thoughts and opinions to strangers, and especially personal details or images of oneself.
  • The volume of comments and messages received can be huge, and many – but not most – are from the above profiles.
  • Bloggers are under no obligation to allow comments on posts, or messages in their inbox, or to respond to them, no matter what supposed standards have been imposed on them by followers.
  • Someone can be blocked for what seems like ‘no reason’, but it’s because they have been identified to be one of the above profiles.
  • Blocking someone is for one reason only: protection – protection from burnout, harassment and violence.

It’s time to stand up against online abuse – acute and chronic, threatening and disrespectful. I will continue to be brave and not let anyone force me to retreat, especially as a mixed-race woman of colour.

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5 Comments

Ann Davis 2 April 2021 at 11:29 pm

Leah, your writing is a breath of fresh air as you talk about subjects many ignore or skirt around. Whilst not always easy to ignore those who try to derail you please know there are far many of us who support and value you.

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Melissa Corbett 25 August 2021 at 3:27 pm

This is a really under-discussed, but important area of public life. Back in my climate activist days I used to troll climate deniers from a satirical Twitter account, it was very amusing trolling trolls but after a while, it becomes a black hole of time and energy. Good for you taking a stand!

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Madrid No Frills 26 August 2021 at 9:09 am

Thanks Melissa! I hope that by discussing this, others will feel empowered to open up about it too!

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Maureen Dolan 25 August 2021 at 10:50 pm

I´m usually a critical whinger but you are the real deal; a truly magnificent writer. Wonderful.

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Madrid No Frills 26 August 2021 at 9:08 am

Thank you Maureen!

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